Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” – Genesis 2:18
(The full Genesis 2 text is available below)
I’ve confessed previously that I enjoy batching it whenever Diane travels for work or to see family…for a few days. My friend told me that he liked it too, when his wife was gone…until he ran out of TV shows or movies he wanted to watch. We men are a self-centered lot.
I remember one occasion a few years ago that I was feeling really quite ill. I called Diane, who was visiting family at the time, and bemoaned my illness. I had a fever. I ached. I really felt like I had been hit by a Mac truck. Her response was less caring or sympathetic than I had hoped for. I was very disappointed, and had to struggle through it. It was truly not good to be alone.
I’d have to allow, however, that Diane did not realize how really sick I was. I think, in retrospect, that I was having a gall bladder attack. And my experience of her response is greatly clouded by my illness. And there was little she could do in that moment from 1,000 miles away. So, please do not hear me throwing her under the bus! She’s a wonderful helpmate, partner in ministry and a compassionate woman of God. The experience simply illustrates how it is not good for the man to be alone.
That took place in the context of life in a fallen world. Fallen people experiencing the effects of the fall into sin. Listen, however, as God makes the pronouncement, “It is not good that the man should be alone.” And take note: This pronouncement comes to man in a sinless state and in a pristine world. Perfect. Not fallen. No brokenness. And on the day that would ultimately be called good, there is a moment where it is not good.
Man is incomplete without woman. When God brings animals to the man, even his best friend will not do. No suitable helper is to be found for him. And since the animals have been created – presumable already male and female – it seems clear that God is trying to teach man a lesson. An important lesson. We’re no good solo.
I realize there are exceptions. Jesus says as much (Matthew 19:10-12). But it is quite another thing to believe we can simply go it alone. God designed man to be needy. He designed man to need a helper. And I am thankful for Diane. God brought her into my life and she is my helper, partner, wife, and a faithful woman of God. It’s not good for this man to be alone, and that has much more to do than being bored because I’m bored with my TV or eating choices.
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” 19 Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. 20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. 21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. 22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. 23 Then the man said,
“This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.”
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. – Genesis 2:18-24